Some pro-lifers talk about how abortion is a selfish choice on a woman’s part because it deprives the rights of the unborn human to accommodate for the wants of another human being. While this motive may certainly be true in some – not all – cases, I believe that this is especially true of men in cases of rape.
It is a fact that too often, a boy can rape a girl causing a pregnancy. The ‘wages’ of sin for sex outside of marriage is often an ‘unplanned’ or ‘unexpected’ baby conceived outside of wedlock. While I’m not trying to imply in any way that the entrance of a baby into the world because of the sin of a young and naive couple is tragic, what I’m saying is that there are still consequences to bad choices.
The seemingly logical course for these guys then is to convince or force the girl into getting an abortion. You see, abortion is the easy way out. It permits boys (that’s what they are), to abuse women for their own pleasure, rather than respecting, cherishing and sacrificing for them. It permits these boys to impregnate girls and then make the unborn child pay for their wrongdoing, without facing the consequences (or so they think).
I will pick a relatively recent case to use for my illustration here. In November 2016, NFL running back Reggie Bush reportedly paid his mistress $3 million to abort their child and keep quiet about the affair. Similarly, in 2013, the NBA’s J.J. Redick allegedly entered into an “abortion contract” with his pregnant girlfriend, Vanessa Lopez, to obtain an abortion. Redick later denied getting her pregnant. Lopez told her feelings of duress to her abortion provider, but the abortion business proceeded with the termination anyway. Lopez allegedly walked away with Redick’s contractual payment of $25,000 and PTSD. Needless to say, both cases are deeply disturbing to anyone who cares about women and children.
This generation, more than any other, knows full well that abortion harms women. We have seen it firsthand. There are no excuses. We have seen the devastation left behind by this terrible practice. It has left our mothers, sisters, aunts, daughters, nieces and granddaughters in emotional agony, spiritual turmoil, and sadly in some cases physical incapacity. Put simply, it has wreaked havoc upon our society.
Despite all the insidious promises, the charming advertisements… the rhetoric from the “pro-choice” camp, nothing changes the fact that abortion has devastating consequences. It might not be felt on the day of the abortion or the day after, but it will be felt sometime, somewhere along the track.
Many courageous women have broken a lot of ground to make inroads in the abortion conversation and reject the misconception and lie that abortion liberates, empowers or benefits women.
But women cannot and should not be left to battle this cause alone. “Abortion is a women’s issue” is one of the greatest lies floating about in this world. Thankfully, great progress has been made, public opinion has shifted, and the baby killing industry is beginning to be exposed and unraveled for the exploitive and barbarous practice that it is. We must stop at nothing to push this cause to the finish line – to get this shameful and outrageous social injustice completely eradicated from society. But, this will not happen until men step up to the plate and take an active role in ending this barbarous practice.
In order to accomplish this, men must first and foremost practice sexual integrity. We live in a society where porn, the hookup culture, and marital infidelity are so prevalent, yet all of these are totally incompatible with a pro-woman, pro-life worldview. Let’s not forget that it was sexual self-gratification that spawned the abortion culture in the first place. Thus, self-control and fidelity in marriage are the first steps to reclaiming the culture for life. Men must start by rejecting pornography, being faithful to their spouses and practicing self-mastery. They need to hold one another to Biblical standards, mentoring, encouraging and supporting one another in staying pure.
Human Coalition’s Vice President, Jeff Bradford, is one post-abortive man whose life was absolutely shaken after he witnessed the effect that the abortion of his child had on his wife.
Bradford shares his story: “I think the thing that really struck me . . . was my wife. Because every woman wants to be fought for. Every woman wants to know that she’s beautiful, that she is worth pursuing, and she wonders if her husband or that man in her life or her father is going to stand in the gap for her.”
“My daughter, who would now be 25 years old, would be alive today if someone had stood in the gap for us. This is why education, communication and resources to equip men to stand up for our sons and daughters are so vital. I believe God is calling men to be men and help lead the way to ending the greatest holocaust of our day.”
As I wrote in my last LifeSiteNews op-ed, men need to quit being silent on the issue of abortion and instead start making their voices heard. As men, we need to rise up in the face of the great tragedy that is abortion, we need to tackle it head on and we need to completely eradicate this unacceptable and barbarous practice from society. Silence is for cowards and cowards only! Real men will speak up and defend the rights of women and children (both unborn and born).
I will conclude with the heartfelt and passionate words of abortion survivor and outspoken pro-life advocate Gianna Gessen who said it better than I could: “Men, you are made for greatness. You are made to stand up and be men. You are made to defend women and children, not stand by, and turn your head, when you know murder is occurring and do nothing about it. You are not made to use women and leave us alone. You are made to be kind and great and gracious and strong and stand for something because men, listen to me, I am too tired to do your job.”